ANC vs DA

The simplest of definition of a democracy to me means that the majority rules. As South Africans we have all been given the blood earned right to make our mark during elections. The Independent Electoral Commission (IEC) has enlisted a menu of a choice for us to make our mark on, a few weeks ago. Elections are done, votes counted - So the people have spoken!

Congratulations to the African National Congress (ANC) for having won the elections fairly on a National level. May God guide our new President Jacob Gedleyihlekisa Zuma.

For my Province (Western Cape Province) – congratulations to the Helen Zille led Democratic Alliance (DA) for a hard earned victory in the Western Cape.

Now this in my view is the result of a democratic election playing itself out. I am aware of the other Provinces in our rainbow country - but will speak only for my home. The ANC has earned their office fair and square in contesting the election – so they will rule the majority of the provinces in the Republic.

I like the fact that we have a loud opposition such as the DA to keep the ANC on their toes. Helen Zille reminds me somewhat of the story of Joan of Arc. Joan was a fearless woman who led a battalion of men into victory. It was an unusual phenomenon at the time, as women did not go into battle, let-alone lead. Sadly Joan lost her head – physically speaking.

Ms. Zille has proven herself worthy her weight in salt during her reign as the Honourable Mayor of Cape Town. She also campaigned tirelessly during electioneering. She has earned the respect of the world with (mainly) her management style. I even remember one of my lecturers a few years back speaking of her style of management in a Strategic Management study. We discussed, dissected and debated her style of management at length. I like the way she works – she certainly earned my admiration. Now, she is the Premier of the Western Cape – well done!


Mr. Zuma on the other hand has lost my respect in the past few years. I have heard him (and Zille) at many talks (live) and he certainly is very charming. However – he lost my respect because he did not honour his day in court. He asked for it – I was present when he made such a plea at a luncheon with the Cape Town Press Club in 2007. When the time came – he got his power house of attorneys and supporters of the tripartite alliance to wiggle him out of it. This tells me – in my simple layman’s mind – he has something to hide. However, I freely gave him my empathy when the media annihilated him and basically charged him before he actually went to court.

So, what now? Well, it’s very simple. The people have spoken. Jacob Zuma is the President of the Republic of South Africa! We must accept and respect that.

So, Ms. Zille you have earned your piece of the pie, and Mr. Zuma his. Let the man get on with business and you do the same. The slanderous comments where you attack his person (and insult his wives – indirectly) is just proof of the contempt you have for the ruling party. Set an example and attack the ruling party’s President on matters of governance and not what he did and apologised for publically ages ago. There are new fish to fry – start chopping the wood.

When our leaders go at each other in an undiplomatic way as you guys are, would that not set a standard for us all to follow suit? What would this country end up like if business start doing the same, then community organisations and then neighbours and children. So in the name of love and peace – renounce the name calling ( you know Julius Malema will come at you with force) and start governing. If you have evidence that the President should be convicted, bring it out for the courts to decide. Don’t lead us into a moral dilemma now, please.

I believe you both have chosen you your cabinets (on what ever level you find yourselves in office) based on your own well thought through strategic analysis – now let the people be the judges of your performance. Stop acting like spoiled brats and deliver to those who put you on your ivory towers. We all know how hard you can fall from up high – ask people like Peter what’s his name and Thabo someone or the other.

I say yes to positivity and no to mudslinging!

Making a Positive Change

It is so easy to become complacent in life. We have an income, a place to stay, basic securities (Maslow’s {basic} needs theory) checked so all is just fine and dandy. Yes I agree that these things are our basic and most essential needs, but it should not be our licence to die a boring and uneventful life. As human beings we are such divine beings that can do great and wonderful things if we just would challenge ourselves a little more.

I include myself in the above. In looking around me I see more and more people content with the fact that we’re going through recessions and economic melt-downs all around the world. So what now, do we just sit back and admire our the wealthy and successful and remain spectators of our own demise? Again, (ashamed to admit) I find myself very much a part of that clan.

Discipline will challenge complacency which will result in us not just accepting mediocrity. Even as a child; I loathed mediocrity. However, here I am infected by the pandemic of absolute laziness. Lord; help me – laziness makes my skin crawl. It is unacceptable on all levels.

Hard work on the other hand is a nasty swear word. After all, slavery was abolished ages ago. Human rights is the new vogue. It is my human right to have a job, a house, a car, to protest, to say no, to make others suffer – yes I said it! Your and my laziness makes others suffer.

In South Africa we have successfully cultivated a custom of maximum expectation with the least possible commitment. We are an ill society of lazy bums that will be the cause of our own demise if we don’t wake up from this everlasting slumber.

Now; I find this sort of moaning rather repugnant and somewhat negative, so let me try and swing this blog to a more positive angle.

As adults we know that there is a right way of doing things and a wrong way of doing things. Why do we continue or insist on doing onto others what we would not like to be done onto us? Let’s wake up and make a positive difference in our own lives so it would in a similar way affect the lives of others.

Fundamentally; we must first and most importantly realise and accept we are totally responsible for our life. Second to that we must realise that our life has an effect (directly and indirectly) on others around us. So the foundation principle here is to realise we must respect ourselves and other sufficiently. This way we will be motivated to work hard, commit to a mechanism of team work and commit to establishing realistic and realisable goals. This would give life more meaning and greater purpose.

We need also realise we are preparing a route for the generation that follows us. Now we can all sit back and point fingers, but that would not get us very far. It’s time for action – stop the blame game!

When we take responsibility for our lives, we will live more happily and more pleasing lives. If we apply the needed discipline, take the incumbent responsibility for our lives and choices we can be sure we will benefit great joy in our lives. We might even be able to have greater control over our situations.

It is extremely important for us to understand that we are responsible in every way for our own lives. We are answerable for our own actions in a court of law – so too in the law of life.

Stop blaming the past! Stop making excuses for why you did or did not do something! Eliminate negative thinking. Eliminate negative influences/people in your life’s space.

Become aware of your weaknesses and work with them so they don’t cripple you. Become aware of your thoughts, and eliminate destructive thoughts. Speak good fortune over your own life and that of others. This all holds immense power.

Most importantly – wake up each day with a new hope, a new meaning, and a new song in your heart. Have the attitude of positivity. Be joy, be happy, be laughter, be kindness, be motivated, be disciplined, be responsible.

Be the change you want to see in the world – Mahatma Ghandi

Change is not as scary as it may seem. Look at the butterfly or the tale of the ugly duckling....

Peace x o x o x o

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Chinese Cuisine

Those who know me will confirm that my favourite indulgence is good food. I do not compromise on quality products and the fresher the better. I remember how my gran and mom used to reprimand in the kitchen often calling my way of cooking extravagant. However they loved the fusions of flavours and aromas brought forth by my experimental meals.

At the risk of sounding my own horn, I am good at cooking most dishes and cuisines. However I am not close to the knifes edge when it comes to the Chinese.

Since I discovered Chinese food many years back I’ve been hooked. It is in my opinion the most tasty and nutritional foods we can enjoy without ending up bloated or feeling I need a wheelchair to move me from the table.

The other night I went to one of my favourite restaurants called the Jewel Tavern here in cape Town. The Jewel Tavern is a real hidden treasure as it is situated in the depth of Cape Town harbour and not many people know about its exsistance. Yet it’s been operated by the same family for many many years now.

The serve the best chicken and sweet corn soup, hot & sour soup, cramped with goodness spring rolls are my favourite starters to have. They also serve a superior quality crispy duck that will melt in your mouth with tenderness and its all natural juices sealed to preserve poultry flavour is it’s meant to be. Sweet and sour pork, chicken and cashew nuts, grilled fish, beef, ribs, and a whole lot more is available on the very extensive and exciting menu.

If you go in a group of course it’s a whole lot of fun, because you can each have your own dish and share it with everyone else. It is a winner of an experience for an evening out eating! The sizzling hot food on the rotating tables is certainly a contributor to fun and tasty eating experience.

And for us none Asians to eat with the ever complicated chop sticks can be a challenge and a great laugh as we watch each other’s battle to grip the eating tools. Of course – with the chop sticks one eats smaller quantities and a whole lot slower – which drags the evening a little. So be sure you’re out eating Chinese food with good company.

Now if only I could learn how to cook Chinese the Chinese way. But thank goodness the instant noodles they sell at the local Chinese mini-market down the street from me is a winner each time. Even that is an experience of taste. Well I intend to befriend the owner and trick them not only to teaching me how to cook Chinese, but also to invite me for dinner from time to time.

Anyway – let me get done here and drink my green tea before its cold. Enjoy your next Chinese experience and do share your memories with me.

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To the Followers of my BLOG

This year has started off very well for me actually and I am very grateful for the blessings in my life. Blessings such as a wonderful family structure, 2 best friends whom I love to bits equally and individually, a new business and 2 awesome and very clever business partners.

At this stage I am also still a student of business and a student of the word of God. I attend lectures in business studies to complete a course I am enrolled in for a while now – I am pleased that I only have 8 or 9 months left of that. The bible studies are a couple of informal interactive classes a week.

I’ve met a whole lot of new friends and acquaintances, strengthened established relationships and most importantly – I have fallen in love with ME all over again. I am living healthily of course with my hectic schedule I guess I have to.

Anyway – I want to apologise for neglecting my blog a little. I have a few pending topics awaiting my attention. You will soon have something to read from my side again.

Then most importantly – to all 4 of the followers of my blog – thanx!

81st Oscars

This year 2009 Hollywood celebrated its 81st Oscars in honouring actors, directors, screenwriters, set designers, artistic directors etc. These are of course very important people in the movie industry that takes gazillions or Rands every year at the box offices here in South Africa and abroad. But my favourite part of the Oscars is of course what everyone is wearing and how uncomfortable other seems in what they’ve poured themselves into.

Take for instance this dress the bootylicious songstress is wearing. She does not look particularly relaxed, but poised indeed. The fashionista’s frock looks as if it’s made from upholstery fabric taken out a camp lounge. Not one of her better looks I'd say.

Then again look at Vanessa Hudgens of the “High School Musical fame in her version of a mermaid gown and you see elegance with less effort.

Unlike the girls there is very little we can do to the guys, as the tuxedo is the tuxedo. However look at Hugh Jackman the host of the evening and see how dapper a man can make a tux and bowtie flow over his body.

And then you have the waitron’s suit on James Franco who appeared in Milk with winner for Best Actor – Shaun Penn. Now he looks just sad – maybe he thought he was attending a funeral. Bad look for such a pristine event.

Congratulations to all the designers of all the fabulous gowns and ensembles. Also to the organizers of the event who gets very little recognition for their obvious dedication and immaculate (at times) planning and show-casings. Last but not least – to all of those that walked off with a statuette – BRAVO!

Questions to the heart in me

Why is it that the moment I think I’m making progress, I get pulled right back just to be disappointed by some universal message or the other? How do I move on from here? What in my life makes matters of the heart so hard to deal with?

Time to break this fall once and for all! Moving on swiftly...

Watch this space.

My Valentine - August Rush

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m watching August Rush for the umpteenth time. Not a stellar production, but the story line stirred my heart a real deal. It’s a movie about an orphaned young boy’s hope and persistent belief in one-day connecting with his parents. He is the fruit of the loins of a couple of musicians that met by fate – mom a cellist and dad an amateur rock star. Mom become with child after the one and only night she met dad – they never see each other again... Mom never gets to hold or see baby...the lovers are separated by their different lives...It has a remarkable ending.

It seems that as people we are conditioned to believe that we’re not allowed to make mistakes. We are taught and so we believe that we are not allowed to show we’re vulnerable. This is exactly the time we forget how to live and be the pure and loving beings we’re set out or designed to be. How many people are alive around us, but cease to exist in the truest sense of life. How many people “die a living death” in their 30’s and 40’s because they are conditioned by their fears and superficial lifestyles. - Pre-conditioned by the greed and cocked-up notions of this world. They “live” only to pay their bills and to show off the latest creation/purchase of their credit cards. This barricades true happiness because they forget how to justly live with love in their hearts. They forget to have love for their neighbours and even their own friends and family. Yes I have lived, seen and experienced this first-hand a gazillion times.

If we can learn to accept our mistakes, work on these mistakes and make things better instead of concealing them or running from them we would become a better people. We would have better interpersonal relationships and consequently better interaction with our loved-ones, siblings, neighbours, colleagues and even the stranger on the street. It is my wish that we would all live to see our own true potential. I dream of healthy conflict to better relations and an eradication of religious and political wars – as the latter two spins of into the social spheres of life. This is unfortunate and inevitable.

Where am I going with all of this? Well...later in the movie the boy is asked: “what do you want to be in the world...in the whole world...” and the boy answers: ...”found”. A very simple wish for an orphan boy is it not? A very profound and unpretentious wish indeed. If you should ask me what my wish is today, I would answer you...given another chance...

“I will love again; even though it takes a lifetime to get over you...I will love again...” A quote from a song I love for years now. Every time I hear that song I sing those words with absolute conviction.

Maybe we all have to pay a costly price at some time in our life to realise the value of what we had to pay for. I certainly have. I can hear my granny saying; “no use crying over spilled milk” and my mom echoing; “you only miss the water when the well runs dry”. These were two unschooled but very wise women God had blessed me with. May their memories and wise words live long in this pumping heart of mine.

Happy Valentine’s Day xxx “Boy-Again” – you know who you are xxx

Orphaned by Love...

God and I

This would be the first official posting I’ve put on here regarding my relationship with God - in somewhat detail. Just this morning I woke up and realised I have to write this post, and again in my normal style of writing – without any specific outcome in mind. I ask you to please bear with me as it is quite important for me to actually say this out “loud”

I’ve made a conscious choice a little while back to live my life in a way God expects me to live. How do I know what God wants of me I hear you ask? Well, I am born and raised in a Christian home and my teachings of all my life had resurfaced in exhibitions, revelations, sporadic encounters and such that seemed too pure to not be from a Super Natural Being – yes GOD! This in respect to how and what I am taught as a Christian from my days of childhood.

No I am not converted, as I have always been a Christian by birth. Yes I am reborn as by my teachings I have learned that we have to be baptised just like Jesus was baptised by John as an adult fully submerged in water – and this in essence is me reborn.

At the moment though I struggle to allow myself to put God where He should be in my life – in the position of authority He is by default in any respect. As the creator of heaven and earth and all in it, He is a God Almighty... Now all I need to do is pray and work on cleansing my corrupt mind and surrender to what is God’s power in my life as appose to that of my own perceived power.

I am now trying anew to learn about God’s laws and commandments in the life of Donovan G. R. Muller. My desire and aspiration is to include God in all that I do and to be obedient in as much as my fallible self can and will allow.

The greatest commandment is to love God by keeping His commandments. Matthew 22:36-38 says, "'Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?' Jesus replied: 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment.'"

So here I am with certain realities I have to face, certain sacrifices I have to make and even more so realisations I must reach. This all is possible if I allow God His rightful place in my life. Yes no-one said it would be easy, but no-one told me it would be this much of a challenge either.

However, be this all as it may – it is clear and evident to me through conviction that obedience is very important in my Christian development and growth. Don’t get me wrong, I am certainly not claiming to be sanctified or righteous. Even less so without fault or sin. The truth is, because I am so sinful I need to be able to lay my burdens down at a place where I know I stand a good chance to be redeemed. Where else, but at the feet of the Lord?

Valentine’s Day

Many of us celebrate St. Valentine’s day through out the world on 14th February each year. On this day we traditionally exchange gift and cards as tokens of our love for our partners. The most common gifts by this day’s traditions would of course be chocolates, red roses, sexy underwear, etc... People float about with big smiles on their faces, wearing clothes of red and white and making last minute dinner arrangements.

I’ve once read that about 1 billion cards are sold yearly (world wide) to commemorate this day. Now this is probably the biggest holiday in exchanging cards after Christmas Day if you ask me. The price of Red Roses are also double the price then they normally are, because lo-and –behold if you don’t get home with those roses Mr....Anyway, nothing wrong with making an extra buck or 2 is there. Well, my sister would disagree. She’s happily married to her husband and they do not celebrate Valentine’s Day, because they believe this day should happen everyday any-way. Each to their own I say.

I’m a sucker for love anyway. I love love and am the type that falls in-love every-time as if it’s the first time. I can even fall in love with a gold fish. There’s much to be said about this matter, as I have come across quite a few people in my life that claims that they have fallen in love only once and that was that. Most of these people that I know of are no longer with the one’s they claim they have fallen in love with that once. So, perhaps they were just hurt and did not allow themselves to get over that hurt and move on. Falling in love is such a wonderful thing in my opinion.

The way I see it, Valentine’s day is to collectively spread the spirit of love and a day you can go all out expressing your love to that special person you find yourself spending a great deal of time with. It’s the one day in the year you can embarrass yourself completely in the name of love by making some foolish romantic gestures come to life. In essence all the gifts you give in and over time are no greater than the gift of love. There is no substitute for the treasure of another’s heart.

So from me to you,

What About Discipline?

Definition: A branch of knowledge
A system of rules of conduct or method of practice
A trait of being well behaved
Training to improve strength of self-control
The act of punishing
Controlled behaviour; Self-Control; A systematic method of obtaining obedience.
These are but a few definitions I could find, add your own.

What the Bible Says about Discip
Proverbs 10 v 17 (New Living Translation)
People who accepts discipline are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore correction will go astray.

Proverbs 13 v 1 (New Living Translation)
A wise child accepts a parents discipline; a mocker refuses to listen to correction

Proverbs 15 v 32 (New Living Translation)
If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding.

There are a few more passages in the Bible on the subject – I chose these three.

By these few definitions and passages from the Bible as examples of what discipline is one can safely assume discipline brings order in our homes, place of work, education and life in general. Without an equitable sum of instilled disciplines in life and practice things would be chaotic and without course for us to resolve by fair action. We cannot all be mavericks, though I believe they too have a place in all of life’s symmetricalnesses.

We’ve all heard the saying “bend the tree while it’s still young” which is often meant in reference to an unruly child. Children are such joy (says I with none of my own) as I observe them grow from baby’s, to toddlers, to teens and see the transformation as discipline becomes a part of their upbringing. However, we all have seen how children behave when they are not disciplined. We’ve seen them in shopping malls’; banks and even restaurants amongst other places. Many-a-time I have felt like going to the parent of this (wild) child/ren and say – you are allowed to use assertiveness and/or a firm stance in raising your child you know. But as soon as that thought arise I can imagine getting that parent’s brunt of frustration taken out on me. No thanks! So suck it up, and go on with your life like it never happened. However, concern with a hint of anxiety eminently arises when you think that these kids are the future adults of this beautiful space called life.

Yes, let kids be kids, but let’s help them become better kids and even better adults and discipline them in a fair and healthy manner. I have a little niece (my cousin’s daughter actually) that is a little recusant – and will not listen to anyone – and will sooner throw a tantrum and cause a scene that other’s may think she is being murdered. She is 5 (will soon be six) and have done this since she was about 2 or 3 years old. Her parents and grandparents would just walk away from her and allow her to do as she pleases. Now I’m sorry, but I do not agree with that sort of upbringing.

One day at a family get-together my little princess (as I refer to her and her sister alike) decided to do finger paintings with the dips and feed the goldfish crisps (at the house of our hosts). When I saw this I immediately became outraged and took her gently onto my lap and looked her into the eye and told her that what she did was unacceptable and will not be tolerated. While her mom and grandmother came to her rescue, the dad left the room. Now imagine a very uncomfortable silence as everyone waits for the disciplinarian (yours truly) to bring this unruly child into a tantrum fit. I gave mom and gran a look of “butt out” and little princess started crying and going ape like a little rebel should. I did not let go and I brought her very calmly back to order. I spoke to her like I believe it should have been done before I had to take action. Well, she’s still a tantrum queen with her parents and grandparent, but a princess of note in my presence. She often asks her parents to bring her to me so she can visit. She now loves her uncle Donny and shows exemplary behaviour whilst still being a child with crazy antics. Now it’s my 2 year old nephews turn. He picked up a swear word or 2 at day-care and knows it’s wrong to say it but still does. Well Uncle Donny got hold of him too – let’s see how he’s language progresses. I’d rather have him speak the 11 official languages I have never learned to speak than to have him utter any nonsense.

Now as adults – we too lack discipline in many aspects of our lives. And because of that factor it rubs off on our kinds and ultimately our future.

Here’s a thought from a daddy wanna be: We need children to make good youthful choices to enable them to make good adult decisions. So let’s teach our young ones the discipline they so need, so we can eventually sit back and take the credit for a healthy society in our days of age. What do you think?