Today I choose to love myself in a balanced way. In this I am free.
We all have suffered the torment of insecurity in our lives on one level or another. With our insecurities comes resentment of self. When we build resentment of ourselves, healthy self-love leaves us. If we don’t love ourselves we are inevitably left hurt and void. When we are left void of something as vital as love, we do damage to our spiritual health.
So when our spiritual health suffers, we go and seek a band-aid of sorts to cover it. We over eat, we over exercise, we shop excessively, we do drugs, we do all kinds of crazy stuff and we justify it. Some of us get into abusive relationships to affirm our worthlessness. Some just avoid relationships all together because they do not feel worthy of another person’s love and affection.
So when our spiritual health suffers, we go and seek a band-aid of sorts to cover it. We over eat, we over exercise, we shop excessively, we do drugs, we do all kinds of crazy stuff and we justify it. Some of us get into abusive relationships to affirm our worthlessness. Some just avoid relationships all together because they do not feel worthy of another person’s love and affection.
You should not get into relationships because you need others to like you or make me feel better about yourself. That is most certainly not what I am saying. If you don’t love yourself for who you are, you automatically and inherently don’t expect others to love you. Even though you know it would be nice to receive the love of others, you can’t really receive their love, because you don’t love yourself. So in my opinion if you don’t love yourself you cannot receive the love of another.
Because you question you real value as a person, you can’t accept that others would love you for who you are. Some people think in this way: “I don’t love myself so why would someone else see value in me and love me for me?”
So when we get “close” to others, all we do is try to avoid hurt and rejection instead of just accepting that someone likes you for who you are. Allow yourself to experience love unconditionally.
Unconditional love is when you are loved for who you are and not for what you do or how you perform. Love with conditions is no love at all. Conditional love is when you say...”well; I’ll love him better when he starts being more open with me...or I will love her more when she stops telling me what to do”...that is conditional love.
I once found myself saying, oh I love you, but some days you make it really hard for me to love you. That is no love at all. I was allowing a situation to put restriction on my love relationship. Not cool!
Look at your own life more boldly and honestly and know that you have flaws and make mistakes. If that is true for you it is more than likely true for the next person too.
So as from today – choose to love yourself unconditionally. Not in a selfish self absorbed way, but in a balanced way. Love yourself in such a way that is becomes easier for you to love those that you thought did not deserve your love before.
We cant deserve the love of God, yet He loves us unconditionally.
Today I choose to love myself in a balanced way. God loves me and I receive His love right now. In this I am free!
