Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Africa – My Heritage

People refer to me as coloured, because I was born and placed into a group. This “group” is segregated by and amongst themselves and others.

My heart tells me I’m a man born into a land – Africa – therefore I am an African!

Someone once said; “to thine own self be true...”

If we cannot stand up for ourselves and what we believe in, then what are we living for. As God is my source and my refuse, I must honour and fulfil my purpose here on earth to the best of my ability. I must identify with myself and not be what “they” tell me to be. I am an African man!

My heart is for God on this continent; in my Motherland – Africa!

Friday, September 25, 2009

An Update

My year has been absolutely awesome thus far, despite having had to deal with a broken heart that just would not heal. Be it safe to say, I’m on the road of recovery and I have learned so much about myself and my weakness. For instance, in order to heal completely you need to dress your wound, and in order to dress your wound, you actually have to acknowledge that you have been hurt...something new to me indeed.
I guess this is all due to the new relationship I have managed to shape over the past year or so. Yeah, since I have given my life to the Lord, without reservation, I started living a life with less stress and less external dictation we so often succumb to in this world.

I’ve decided to sacrifice my entire Sunday this year to serving in church and I have most certainly reaped great rewards therefore. However I also had to make many sacrifices. No lunches with the family on Sunday afternoon, no drives out with my best friends, no braai’s or picnics, no chilling in bed with a book or afternoon naps, but also no regrets.

I do want to apologise to my family and friends if you feel neglected at this stage. At the same time I want to thank you for your patience, love and continuous support and for still including me in invitations alas you know I might have to say no. I love you!

The initial company I have started this year did some great work, my partners and I met some awesome people and we connected on astonishing levels. Sadly however, our lives just took a different course and our priorities changed and the business Uyangisiza Africa Consultants did not flourish as we had hoped it would. Well, you win some and you lose some. Some would see this venture as a failure; I prefer to look at it as a spring board for greater things that lies ahead for all of us.

I have endeavoured to work with a life coach who has thus far helped me look at my life and my business in a whole new and constructive manner. More on this a little later...

Church has really taken up centre of my life and I am truly blessed to have met so many interesting and loving people. I don’t remember if ever my life was this anchored and secured. Every Sunday morning I am up early to make my way merrily to church to meet with my team that serves faithfully with me every week. I got so used to seeing them all on a Sunday morning, meeting for a prayer and a chat over a cup of coffee. I have had challenges this year in business and family and my spiritual family would pray with me and for as sure as you are reading this, I would find solace, comfort and have breakthrough, but most importantly...I would not stress about it. Have I found some form of immunity to stress? Yes! His name is Jesus Christ who says we can do ALL things through HIM who strengthens us.

I am also leading a men’s connect group. A connect group is what is most commonly known as cell groups. Here too I have learned the power of confidential sharing of concerns in every day life. The guys have accepted me with so much honour, brotherly love and liberty. We learn so much from one another in our meetings and awesome relationships and bonds are being shaped.

Now; anyone that knows anything about me knows that I am a man that reveres my God 1st and foremost. And right next to the One who truly has my heart (God) is my family. My siblings and their families means more to me than my own life...not that I don’t value my life, but I would give up my life for them...no questions asked...

So my sister Milly got married this month. Oh wow, the month of August through to 12 September was without fail very eventful. Excitement, nerves, meetings, time management issues, finding the right caterers, fabrics, designing the menu, finding the venue, meeting with designers, deciding on the right design...eish Milly...I love her to bits and her and I are exceptionally close, but I am not joking when I say Milly is very indecisive. Oh man, and her new mom in-law is not going to make the planning easy either...ai man....the in-laws.




As we have no mom or dad to take up the role of parents of the bride, yours truly had to take up that role (with all the honour in the world) and I have developed so much more admiration and respect for parents. I know what they have to make though and I understand that they would not change it for anything in the world either.

Well, that is the update of the last few month in my life guys.

No in all of this it is only right that I take a holiday...right? Well, I did and that blog is imminent with some picks too. So; watch this space...

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

ANC vs DA

The simplest of definition of a democracy to me means that the majority rules. As South Africans we have all been given the blood earned right to make our mark during elections. The Independent Electoral Commission (IEC) has enlisted a menu of a choice for us to make our mark on, a few weeks ago. Elections are done, votes counted - So the people have spoken!

Congratulations to the African National Congress (ANC) for having won the elections fairly on a National level. May God guide our new President Jacob Gedleyihlekisa Zuma.


For my Province (Western Cape Province) – congratulations to the Helen Zille led Democratic Alliance (DA) for a hard earned victory in the Western Cape.

Now this in my view is the result of a democratic election playing itself out. I am aware of the other Provinces in our rainbow country - but will speak only for my home. The ANC has earned their office fair and square in contesting the election – so they will rule the majority of the provinces in the Republic.

I like the fact that we have a loud opposition such as the DA to keep the ANC on their toes. Helen Zille reminds me somewhat of the story of Joan of Arc. Joan was a fearless woman who led a battalion of men into victory. It was an unusual phenomenon at the time, as women did not go into battle, let-alone lead. Sadly Joan lost her head – physically speaking.


Ms. Zille has proven herself worthy her weight in salt during her reign as the Honourable Mayor of Cape Town. She also campaigned tirelessly during electioneering. She has earned the respect of the world with (mainly) her management style. I even remember one of my lecturers a few years back speaking of her style of management in a Strategic Management study. We discussed, dissected and debated her style of management at length. I like the way she works – she certainly earned my admiration. Now, she is the Premier of the Western Cape – well done!


Mr. Zuma on the other hand has lost my respect in the past few years. I have heard him (and Zille) at many talks (live) and he certainly is very charming. However – he lost my respect because he did not honour his day in court. He asked for it – I was present when he made such a plea at a luncheon with the Cape Town Press Club in 2007. When the time came – he got his power house of attorneys and supporters of the tripartite alliance to wiggle him out of it. This tells me – in my simple layman’s mind – he has something to hide. However, I freely gave him my empathy when the media annihilated him and basically charged him before he actually went to court.

So, what now? Well, it’s very simple. The people have spoken. Jacob Zuma is the President of the Republic of South Africa! We must accept and respect that.

So, Ms. Zille you have earned your piece of the pie, and Mr. Zuma his. Let the man get on with business and you do the same. The slanderous comments where you attack his person (and insult his wives – indirectly) is just proof of the contempt you have for the ruling party. Set an example and attack the ruling party’s President on matters of governance and not what he did and apologised for publically ages ago. There are new fish to fry – start chopping the wood.

When our leaders go at each other in an undiplomatic way as you guys are, would that not set a standard for us all to follow suit? What would this country end up like if business start doing the same, then community organisations and then neighbours and children. So in the name of love and peace – renounce the name calling ( you know Julius Malema will come at you with force) and start governing. If you have evidence that the President should be convicted, bring it out for the courts to decide. Don’t lead us into a moral dilemma now, please.

I believe you both have chosen you your cabinets (on what ever level you find yourselves in office) based on your own well thought through strategic analysis – now let the people be the judges of your performance. Stop acting like spoiled brats and deliver to those who put you on your ivory towers. We all know how hard you can fall from up high – ask people like Peter what’s his name and Thabo someone or the other.

I say yes to positivity and no to mudslinging!



Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Making a Positive Change

It is so easy to become complacent in life. We have an income, a place to stay, basic securities (Maslow’s {basic} needs theory) checked so all is just fine and dandy. Yes I agree that these things are our basic and most essential needs, but it should not be our licence to die a boring and uneventful life. As human beings we are such divine beings that can do great and wonderful things if we just would challenge ourselves a little more.
I include myself in the above. In looking around me I see more and more people content with the fact that we’re going through recessions and economic melt-downs all around the world. So what now, do we just sit back and admire our the wealthy and successful and remain spectators of our own demise? Again, (ashamed to admit) I find myself very much a part of that clan.

Discipline will challenge complacency which will result in us not just accepting mediocrity. Even as a child; I loathed mediocrity. However, here I am infected by the pandemic of absolute laziness. Lord; help me – laziness makes my skin crawl. It is unacceptable on all levels.

Hard work on the other hand is a nasty swear word. After all, slavery was abolished ages ago. Human rights is the new vogue. It is my human right to have a job, a house, a car, to protest, to say no, to make others suffer – yes I said it! Your and my laziness makes others suffer.

In South Africa we have successfully cultivated a custom of maximum expectation with the least possible commitment. We are an ill society of lazy bums that will be the cause of our own demise if we don’t wake up from this everlasting slumber.

Now; I find this sort of moaning rather repugnant and somewhat negative, so let me try and swing this blog to a more positive angle.


As adults we know that there is a right way of doing things and a wrong way of doing things. Why do we continue or insist on doing onto others what we would not like to be done onto us? Let’s wake up and make a positive difference in our own lives so it would in a similar way affect the lives of others.

Fundamentally; we must first and most importantly realise and accept we are totally responsible for our life. Second to that we must realise that our life has an effect (directly and indirectly) on others around us. So the foundation principle here is to realise we must respect ourselves and other sufficiently. This way we will be motivated to work hard, commit to a mechanism of team work and commit to establishing realistic and realisable goals. This would give life more meaning and greater purpose.
We need also realise we are preparing a route for the generation that follows us. Now we can all sit back and point fingers, but that would not get us very far. It’s time for action – stop the blame game!

When we take responsibility for our lives, we will live more happily and more pleasing lives. If we apply the needed discipline, take the incumbent responsibility for our lives and choices we can be sure we will benefit great joy in our lives. We might even be able to have greater control over our situations.

It is extremely important for us to understand that we are responsible in every way for our own lives. We are answerable for our own actions in a court of law – so too in the law of life.

Stop blaming the past! Stop making excuses for why you did or did not do something! Eliminate negative thinking. Eliminate negative influences/people in your life’s space.

Become aware of your weaknesses and work with them so they don’t cripple you. Become aware of your thoughts, and eliminate destructive thoughts. Speak good fortune over your own life and that of others. This all holds immense power.

Most importantly – wake up each day with a new hope, a new meaning, and a new song in your heart. Have the attitude of positivity. Be joy, be happy, be laughter, be kindness, be motivated, be disciplined, be responsible.

Be the change you want to see in the world – Mahatma Ghandi



Change is not as scary as it may seem. Look at the butterfly or the tale of the ugly duckling....
Peace x o x o x o
D

Monday, March 9, 2009

Chinese Cuisine


Those who know me will confirm that my favourite indulgence is good food. I do not compromise on quality products and the fresher the better. I remember how my gran and mom used to reprimand in the kitchen often calling my way of cooking extravagant. However they loved the fusions of flavours and aromas brought forth by my experimental meals.

At the risk of sounding my own horn, I am good at cooking most dishes and cuisines. However I am not close to the knifes edge when it comes to the Chinese.

Since I discovered Chinese food many years back I’ve been hooked. It is in my opinion the most tasty and nutritional foods we can enjoy without ending up bloated or feeling I need a wheelchair to move me from the table.



The other night I went to one of my favourite restaurants called the Jewel Tavern here in cape Town. The Jewel Tavern is a real hidden treasure as it is situated in the depth of Cape Town harbour and not many people know about its exsistance. Yet it’s been operated by the same family for many many years now.

The serve the best chicken and sweet corn soup, hot & sour soup, cramped with goodness spring rolls are my favourite starters to have. They also serve a superior quality crispy duck that will melt in your mouth with tenderness and its all natural juices sealed to preserve poultry flavour is it’s meant to be. Sweet and sour pork, chicken and cashew nuts, grilled fish, beef, ribs, and a whole lot more is available on the very extensive and exciting menu.


If you go in a group of course it’s a whole lot of fun, because you can each have your own dish and share it with everyone else. It is a winner of an experience for an evening out eating! The sizzling hot food on the rotating tables is certainly a contributor to fun and tasty eating experience.

And for us none Asians to eat with the ever complicated chop sticks can be a challenge and a great laugh as we watch each other’s battle to grip the eating tools. Of course – with the chop sticks one eats smaller quantities and a whole lot slower – which drags the evening a little. So be sure you’re out eating Chinese food with good company.

Now if only I could learn how to cook Chinese the Chinese way. But thank goodness the instant noodles they sell at the local Chinese mini-market down the street from me is a winner each time. Even that is an experience of taste. Well I intend to befriend the owner and trick them not only to teaching me how to cook Chinese, but also to invite me for dinner from time to time.

Anyway – let me get done here and drink my green tea before its cold. Enjoy your next Chinese experience and do share your memories with me.

Pictures/Photos compliments www.google.co.za




Monday, March 2, 2009

To the Followers of my BLOG

This year has started off very well for me actually and I am very grateful for the blessings in my life. Blessings such as a wonderful family structure, 2 best friends whom I love to bits equally and individually, a new business and 2 awesome and very clever business partners.

At this stage I am also still a student of business and a student of the word of God. I attend lectures in business studies to complete a course I am enrolled in for a while now – I am pleased that I only have 8 or 9 months left of that. The bible studies are a couple of informal interactive classes a week.

I’ve met a whole lot of new friends and acquaintances, strengthened established relationships and most importantly – I have fallen in love with ME all over again. I am living healthily of course with my hectic schedule I guess I have to.

Anyway – I want to apologise for neglecting my blog a little. I have a few pending topics awaiting my attention. You will soon have something to read from my side again.

Then most importantly – to all 4 of the followers of my blog – thanx!

Monday, February 23, 2009

81st Oscars

This year 2009 Hollywood celebrated its 81st Oscars in honouring actors, directors, screenwriters, set designers, artistic directors etc. These are of course very important people in the movie industry that takes gazillions or Rands every year at the box offices here in South Africa and abroad. But my favourite part of the Oscars is of course what everyone is wearing and how uncomfortable other seems in what they’ve poured themselves into.



Take for instance this dress the bootylicious songstress is wearing. She does not look particularly relaxed, but poised indeed. The fashionista’s frock looks as if it’s made from upholstery fabric taken out a camp lounge. Not one of her better looks I'd say.


Then again look at Vanessa Hudgens of the “High School Musical fame in her version of a mermaid gown and you see elegance with less effort.



Unlike the girls there is very little we can do to the guys, as the tuxedo is the tuxedo. However look at Hugh Jackman the host of the evening and see how dapper a man can make a tux and bowtie flow over his body.



And then you have the waitron’s suit on James Franco who appeared in Milk with winner for Best Actor – Shaun Penn. Now he looks just sad – maybe he thought he was attending a funeral. Bad look for such a pristine event.
Congratulations to all the designers of all the fabulous gowns and ensembles. Also to the organizers of the event who gets very little recognition for their obvious dedication and immaculate (at times) planning and show-casings. Last but not least – to all of those that walked off with a statuette – BRAVO!

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Questions to the heart in me


Why is it that the moment I think I’m making progress, I get pulled right back just to be disappointed by some universal message or the other? How do I move on from here? What in my life makes matters of the heart so hard to deal with?

Time to break this fall once and for all! Moving on swiftly...

Watch this space.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

My Valentine - August Rush

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m watching August Rush for the umpteenth time. Not a stellar production, but the story line stirred my heart a real deal. It’s a movie about an orphaned young boy’s hope and persistent belief in one-day connecting with his parents. He is the fruit of the loins of a couple of musicians that met by fate – mom a cellist and dad an amateur rock star. Mom become with child after the one and only night she met dad – they never see each other again... Mom never gets to hold or see baby...the lovers are separated by their different lives...It has a remarkable ending.

It seems that as people we are conditioned to believe that we’re not allowed to make mistakes. We are taught and so we believe that we are not allowed to show we’re vulnerable. This is exactly the time we forget how to live and be the pure and loving beings we’re set out or designed to be. How many people are alive around us, but cease to exist in the truest sense of life. How many people “die a living death” in their 30’s and 40’s because they are conditioned by their fears and superficial lifestyles. - Pre-conditioned by the greed and cocked-up notions of this world. They “live” only to pay their bills and to show off the latest creation/purchase of their credit cards. This barricades true happiness because they forget how to justly live with love in their hearts. They forget to have love for their neighbours and even their own friends and family. Yes I have lived, seen and experienced this first-hand a gazillion times.

If we can learn to accept our mistakes, work on these mistakes and make things better instead of concealing them or running from them we would become a better people. We would have better interpersonal relationships and consequently better interaction with our loved-ones, siblings, neighbours, colleagues and even the stranger on the street. It is my wish that we would all live to see our own true potential. I dream of healthy conflict to better relations and an eradication of religious and political wars – as the latter two spins of into the social spheres of life. This is unfortunate and inevitable.

Where am I going with all of this? Well...later in the movie the boy is asked: “what do you want to be in the world...in the whole world...” and the boy answers: ...”found”. A very simple wish for an orphan boy is it not? A very profound and unpretentious wish indeed. If you should ask me what my wish is today, I would answer you...given another chance...

“I will love again; even though it takes a lifetime to get over you...I will love again...” A quote from a song I love for years now. Every time I hear that song I sing those words with absolute conviction.

Maybe we all have to pay a costly price at some time in our life to realise the value of what we had to pay for. I certainly have. I can hear my granny saying; “no use crying over spilled milk” and my mom echoing; “you only miss the water when the well runs dry”. These were two unschooled but very wise women God had blessed me with. May their memories and wise words live long in this pumping heart of mine.

Happy Valentine’s Day xxx “Boy-Again” – you know who you are xxx

Orphaned by Love...

Thursday, February 12, 2009

God and I

This would be the first official posting I’ve put on here regarding my relationship with God - in somewhat detail. Just this morning I woke up and realised I have to write this post, and again in my normal style of writing – without any specific outcome in mind. I ask you to please bear with me as it is quite important for me to actually say this out “loud”

I’ve made a conscious choice a little while back to live my life in a way God expects me to live. How do I know what God wants of me I hear you ask? Well, I am born and raised in a Christian home and my teachings of all my life had resurfaced in exhibitions, revelations, sporadic encounters and such that seemed too pure to not be from a Super Natural Being – yes GOD! This in respect to how and what I am taught as a Christian from my days of childhood.

No I am not converted, as I have always been a Christian by birth. Yes I am reborn as by my teachings I have learned that we have to be baptised just like Jesus was baptised by John as an adult fully submerged in water – and this in essence is me reborn.

At the moment though I struggle to allow myself to put God where He should be in my life – in the position of authority He is by default in any respect. As the creator of heaven and earth and all in it, He is a God Almighty... Now all I need to do is pray and work on cleansing my corrupt mind and surrender to what is God’s power in my life as appose to that of my own perceived power.

I am now trying anew to learn about God’s laws and commandments in the life of Donovan G. R. Muller. My desire and aspiration is to include God in all that I do and to be obedient in as much as my fallible self can and will allow.

The greatest commandment is to love God by keeping His commandments. Matthew 22:36-38 says, "'Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?' Jesus replied: 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment.'"

So here I am with certain realities I have to face, certain sacrifices I have to make and even more so realisations I must reach. This all is possible if I allow God His rightful place in my life. Yes no-one said it would be easy, but no-one told me it would be this much of a challenge either.

However, be this all as it may – it is clear and evident to me through conviction that obedience is very important in my Christian development and growth. Don’t get me wrong, I am certainly not claiming to be sanctified or righteous. Even less so without fault or sin. The truth is, because I am so sinful I need to be able to lay my burdens down at a place where I know I stand a good chance to be redeemed. Where else, but at the feet of the Lord?

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Valentine’s Day

Many of us celebrate St. Valentine’s day through out the world on 14th February each year. On this day we traditionally exchange gift and cards as tokens of our love for our partners. The most common gifts by this day’s traditions would of course be chocolates, red roses, sexy underwear, etc... People float about with big smiles on their faces, wearing clothes of red and white and making last minute dinner arrangements.

I’ve once read that about 1 billion cards are sold yearly (world wide) to commemorate this day. Now this is probably the biggest holiday in exchanging cards after Christmas Day if you ask me. The price of Red Roses are also double the price then they normally are, because lo-and –behold if you don’t get home with those roses Mr....Anyway, nothing wrong with making an extra buck or 2 is there. Well, my sister would disagree. She’s happily married to her husband and they do not celebrate Valentine’s Day, because they believe this day should happen everyday any-way. Each to their own I say.

I’m a sucker for love anyway. I love love and am the type that falls in-love every-time as if it’s the first time. I can even fall in love with a gold fish. There’s much to be said about this matter, as I have come across quite a few people in my life that claims that they have fallen in love only once and that was that. Most of these people that I know of are no longer with the one’s they claim they have fallen in love with that once. So, perhaps they were just hurt and did not allow themselves to get over that hurt and move on. Falling in love is such a wonderful thing in my opinion.

The way I see it, Valentine’s day is to collectively spread the spirit of love and a day you can go all out expressing your love to that special person you find yourself spending a great deal of time with. It’s the one day in the year you can embarrass yourself completely in the name of love by making some foolish romantic gestures come to life. In essence all the gifts you give in and over time are no greater than the gift of love. There is no substitute for the treasure of another’s heart.

So from me to you,

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

What About Discipline?

Definition: A branch of knowledge
A system of rules of conduct or method of practice
A trait of being well behaved
Training to improve strength of self-control
The act of punishing
Controlled behaviour; Self-Control; A systematic method of obtaining obedience.
These are but a few definitions I could find, add your own.

What the Bible Says about Discip
Proverbs 10 v 17 (New Living Translation)
People who accepts discipline are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore correction will go astray.

Proverbs 13 v 1 (New Living Translation)
A wise child accepts a parents discipline; a mocker refuses to listen to correction

Proverbs 15 v 32 (New Living Translation)
If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding.

There are a few more passages in the Bible on the subject – I chose these three.

By these few definitions and passages from the Bible as examples of what discipline is one can safely assume discipline brings order in our homes, place of work, education and life in general. Without an equitable sum of instilled disciplines in life and practice things would be chaotic and without course for us to resolve by fair action. We cannot all be mavericks, though I believe they too have a place in all of life’s symmetricalnesses.

We’ve all heard the saying “bend the tree while it’s still young” which is often meant in reference to an unruly child. Children are such joy (says I with none of my own) as I observe them grow from baby’s, to toddlers, to teens and see the transformation as discipline becomes a part of their upbringing. However, we all have seen how children behave when they are not disciplined. We’ve seen them in shopping malls’; banks and even restaurants amongst other places. Many-a-time I have felt like going to the parent of this (wild) child/ren and say – you are allowed to use assertiveness and/or a firm stance in raising your child you know. But as soon as that thought arise I can imagine getting that parent’s brunt of frustration taken out on me. No thanks! So suck it up, and go on with your life like it never happened. However, concern with a hint of anxiety eminently arises when you think that these kids are the future adults of this beautiful space called life.

Yes, let kids be kids, but let’s help them become better kids and even better adults and discipline them in a fair and healthy manner. I have a little niece (my cousin’s daughter actually) that is a little recusant – and will not listen to anyone – and will sooner throw a tantrum and cause a scene that other’s may think she is being murdered. She is 5 (will soon be six) and have done this since she was about 2 or 3 years old. Her parents and grandparents would just walk away from her and allow her to do as she pleases. Now I’m sorry, but I do not agree with that sort of upbringing.

One day at a family get-together my little princess (as I refer to her and her sister alike) decided to do finger paintings with the dips and feed the goldfish crisps (at the house of our hosts). When I saw this I immediately became outraged and took her gently onto my lap and looked her into the eye and told her that what she did was unacceptable and will not be tolerated. While her mom and grandmother came to her rescue, the dad left the room. Now imagine a very uncomfortable silence as everyone waits for the disciplinarian (yours truly) to bring this unruly child into a tantrum fit. I gave mom and gran a look of “butt out” and little princess started crying and going ape like a little rebel should. I did not let go and I brought her very calmly back to order. I spoke to her like I believe it should have been done before I had to take action. Well, she’s still a tantrum queen with her parents and grandparent, but a princess of note in my presence. She often asks her parents to bring her to me so she can visit. She now loves her uncle Donny and shows exemplary behaviour whilst still being a child with crazy antics. Now it’s my 2 year old nephews turn. He picked up a swear word or 2 at day-care and knows it’s wrong to say it but still does. Well Uncle Donny got hold of him too – let’s see how he’s language progresses. I’d rather have him speak the 11 official languages I have never learned to speak than to have him utter any nonsense.

Now as adults – we too lack discipline in many aspects of our lives. And because of that factor it rubs off on our kinds and ultimately our future.

Here’s a thought from a daddy wanna be: We need children to make good youthful choices to enable them to make good adult decisions. So let’s teach our young ones the discipline they so need, so we can eventually sit back and take the credit for a healthy society in our days of age. What do you think?

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

The Relationship as a COUPLE

An intimate relationship can be a very complex thing if not approached and dealt with in the all-important manner that it requires. One would imagine that after having experienced many relationships in the past one would become somewhat an “expert” on the topic by reason of encounters. Then why are there an ever increasing number of bed-hopping, break-up and make-ups, divorce, etc.? Then on the flip side of the coin the question begs to be asked – why do childhood sweethearts, first loves, etc. last?

I’m of the opinion that many people are the cause of their own heartbreak and love TKO’s. Some feel that they are not entitled to be loved for who they are – may that be on a conscious on subconscious level. Others just don’t love themselves enough to allow another into their hearts and lives. The psychology of this matter is probably so immense and intricate that one would hear various theories on the matter of falling in love and staying there long enough to build a life with the other person. Which brings me to a whole lot of questions actually...?

1. What attracts people to one another?
We’ve all heard the terms “physical attraction” and “love at first sight”. Can one actually fall in love with another at first glimpse? How do you know you are in love with a person without knowing the attributes that person possesses? There are no definite answers to these questions as the sceptics and idealists are still debating the in’s and out’s thereof. The idea of meeting someone and immediately falling in love with that person sure does sound romantic. Imagine logging your eyes on the other person and feeling those feelings of euphoria. Butterflies; little droplets of sweat while there’s an obvious breeze in there air; shortness of breath. All sounds a bit far fetched if you think about it. Yet so many people claim to have experienced that phenomenon. So let’s rest that the verdict is still out on that one.

Then there’s physical attraction. We all have the image of our perfect “Barbie” or “Ken” in our mind. The type we look at when sitting in a restaurant that makes us look again and say hmmmm – to ourselves of course. However that is different in such that you’re in love with an idea more than with the person as appose to the afore mentioned point. It is like going to a fast food place whilst being on a diet and just checking out the menu. You then remind yourself (internally) of what you’re not allowed to have for it might be deadly – especially if your diet means you’re in a commitment with another.

2. Do opposites really attract?
Initially the person that are most UNLIKE you would seem attractive in the sense of what seems socially interesting it appears. "If the qualities that attract you to someone are different from your own, be cautious," says Dr. Neil Clark Warren, clinical psychologist and author of "Date or Soul Mate”. Then it is safe to assume opposites attract for a short while only – until you start driving each other up the wall. Having a few characteristics and interests different from your partner’s could bring about a healthy dose of freedom too one can imagine. While the one is out playing golf the other is out playing squash, because this is what they enjoy separately. But now if the one likes to go clubbing and the other prefers the opera you might find it a bit a of a challenge to find an equilibrium. How would you share the stereo and what would you listen to when you are together? Doing the different sport however could mean time apart (after all absence makes the heart grow fonder) but coming home sharing your separate experiences of the day and arranging dinner together with your sport partner and their significant other. The difference here could expand the relationship into a social dynamic that could keep the spark alive. Subtle difference is therefore manageable and probably even necessary. Too much of an opposite could just leave a bad taste in the mouth...

3. How much must two people have in common to make it work and last?
Here, sharing social interests and activities are as important as reciprocal respect. Both parties must have a mutual interest in keeping the relationship alive and share goals in growing the relationship in partnership as a unit. They must be able to talk about anything and everything and really listen and hear each other out. There is of course no such thing as 50/50 in a relationship. Both must be 100% committed – ask Dr. Phil he’ll confirm this. Enjoying the same food, movies, literature, recreational interests could not hurt either as sharing the interests becomes an imminent element of this partnership. All easier said than done though, because the selfishness of only one can throw the whole unit out of sync. Ask anyone at the divorce court. So, become more interested in the other, include the other in your interests and come to mutual agreements for the sake of the relationship and all that depend on it. A little humility cannot harm either.

4. Why is the grass greener on the other side?
As human beings we are believed to be evolutionary in manner, meaning we change our mind as we change our character. What was once good enough no longer is what we think or believe needed in our lives. So we develop what is commonly referred to as the roaming eye. It is then that we start discovering that our “Barbie” or “Ken” is not so out of reach after all. That eating from the fast food place might kill later, but what the heck – let’s live a little now! Later when the life support system is called upon, regret steps in. Too little too late then isn’t it?


5. What are the rules of a casual relationship?
This works for some more than it does for others. In translation it means – friends with “benefits”. Yes, sex without emotions attached to it. Prostitutes have it with their clients, only they get paid for it. This is dangerous as; sooner or later someone will start wanting more and one or both end up hurt. Let’s do the dirty and not have the emotional responsibility or obligation that goes with it. - Here the “couple” would hook up because they’re lonely, feel restless or just plain horny, yet feel no need to be loyal in anyway to one another. How healthy is this? How do you refer to each other? Hello there meet my friend, my fling, fuddy, the person I sleep with, someone I care enough for to “make love to” but don’t care enough for to love. Well I guess it could work if it works for both. Not the safest bet if you’re as an emotional being as some.


So in essence I conclude that one should first have a sound relationship with self and once that is established will we draw people of same mind set to us to start a fresh relationship of sort we desire. We can then work on it mutually and see it grow from strength to strength.

Monday, January 19, 2009

Barack Obama – The Global President in the USA

This is a day we can all sigh with relief as America and the world looks at fundamental change is leadership. With Barack & Michelle Obama in the White House we can be assured that the issue of race discrimination will be an in your face issue for as long as the Obama’s will reign and hopefully beyond. I pray that the wave of change washes us clean from all the prejudice way of thinking. Maybe this is exactly the time for us to change our mindset and become an all inclusive nation of the world.


Like the late struggle icon – Rev. Martin Luther King Jnr. – said; “Judge a man by the content of his character and not the colour of his skin”. This was a man with a mighty voice and spirit and would not give up his fight and believe in justice for all. In his famous – I had a dream – speech he said; “But we refuse to believe that the bank of justice is bankrupt. We refuse to believe that there are insufficient funds in the great vaults of opportunity of this nation. And so, we've come to cash this check, a check that will give us upon demand the riches of freedom and the security of justice”. He believed that one day equality shall reign and all will have the same grounds in their pursuit to happiness. Barack Obama cashed his check and today will reap the reward that is rightfully his through what he had sown. Barack Obama’s victory is a milestone for all of us of colour and indeed a stepping stone to eradicate the racial divide for all of colour and all who is white. I love the fact that President Obama knows and says it out loud, he cannot walk alone and therefore called on all Americans – in the same breath all should realise they cannot turn back. Thank you Martin Luther King for providing sustenance for all African American to believe in and for sacrificing your life in doing what we all believe is right. One more quote from Rev. King Jnr.






“I have a dream today!
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, and every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight; "and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together."
That day has come and it is today where the world of politics will never be the same since the release of our very own Nelson Mandela from his unfair imprisonment. Today the Americans too will experience true freedom.

Today the world will take a page from the book of the USA and we will learn how it is done by the leading nation of the world. Maybe now I too will learn to love America. Maybe my mindset about American mentality will change too. President Obama your plate is full, yet I believe your cup runneth over.

God Bless the Obama’s. God Bless this world we live in. God Bless Africa, America, Asia and all the other continents this day. May peace reign!









Mr. Loyiso Bala – Artist Extraordinaire

Yesterday was an awesome day as almost weeks of anticipation reached absolute climax. It was the concert of Loyiso Bala which had both men and woman stunned by his suave moves on stage and golden voice in true star performance. Coming from a musical familial back ground (raised in the Eastern Cape) shined through in the absolute vocal confidence of this heartthrob of a performer




Loyiso has always been one of my favourite South African R&B male artists. This dude went to Drakensburg High where one must no doubt be able to put a nightingale to shame when you open your mouth to sing before you’re even allowed to set foot in the all boys school grounds. So did the 2 brothers (big bro Zwai and baby bro Phelo ) who joined Loyiso to form the R&B version of the 3 tenors – they call themselves (appropriately) the Bala Brother. These three brothers from Drakensburg Boys High rocked the crowd in Kirstenbosch yesterday in true stellar style. They gave all of us - South Africans - something to be proud of – home brewed music in the natural sanctuary (Kirstenbosch) at the foot of the majestic Table Mountain. Viva South Africa viva, Viva Ubuntu viva!





On our way home from the concert a friend said, “it’s a miracle that one set of parents can conceive and raise 3 individuals with such immense talents”. Well there is no denying that factor, because it’s not often we see that sort of collaboration in South Africa indeed. Pappa and Mamma Bala, we salute you as you may be proud of the fruits of your groins – the true blessing from an Almighty God.

Loyiso Bala my hero (only because he’s the over achiever I strive to be) is a hard working man who says he is consistent in his approach to work. He’s success has been his train following him for almost a decade in the eye of us mere public mortals. At the age of 19 Mr. Bala was the youngest National Youth Choir Conductor. Pursuing his academics at Unisa (University of South Africa) this over achiever was put in the UISA Book of Honour for achieving 95% in a music exam. He has won many SAMA (South African Music Awards), multi accolades from Metro FM. The talented Mr. Loyiso Bala also landed some practical acting roles in local series such as Back Stage and Tsha Tsha that are worth noting indeed. Being so busy with concerts, interviews, television he gave a several Albums and Singles to listen to over the past decade or so. Now at not even 30 yet, this superstar has a passport boasting of all his international travels he has under his belt. That’s not all – the rumour mill spins with stories of him doing international collaborations with internationally renowned artists in the UK and USA. Keep it up Loyiso! We your fans love you and will support you for as long as you remain a muso of star quality as you are!


Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Change - A Virtue

Over the years I’ve become very friendly with my doctor who was a great moral supporter of the transitions in my life. He coached me in many aspects of my methods in making business decisions as well as how to manage the emotional aspect of my private life. I suffered from depression over a period of years and did not quite know how to deal with it or what caused it. We later discovered that I’m not very good with handling change in my life. I also suffered abandonment issues in my younger years which decided to surface in my early to mid 20’s. Thanks to therapy things now have changed.

Sometimes we get so caught up with the idea of how we think our life is or should be that we don’t look at the reality of what is going on around us or even inside of us. I for example was the typical control freak with the type “A” personality to equal it. Everything had to go according to how I planned it, even the weather and my team’s health and circumstances. This all because I did not want to deal with failure or change for that matter. Much of how I planned things in the past was carved in stone and not open for change – unless I instigated and controlled that change. Needless to say I hated surprises. This of course made me a very boring and anal individual in the eyes of many. However I was still a very successful; boring and anal individual with that method. Much to be said about that I’m sure. I had a stress level of note and lived of digestives for the heartburn caused by stress and tension. Anyway, I am digressing now.

I’ve actually lost my train of thought now because I’m writing in stages and are being interrupted by calls, online chats, etc...omg...is that the type A personality coming back. Be gone satan!

Nevertheless, what I actually want to get to is that change can actually be a good and necessary mania in one’s life. Of course depending on how we decide to look at it and what we prefer to do with the needed change. The psychology of change is not very straight forward; I wish to challenge those who states the contrary. Change is scary to anyone, whether we wish to admit and acknowledge that factor or not.

Change is not essentially a bad thing and it does not have to be daunting or difficult either. (Of course it all depend on the level of change, I’m not completely daft J) Change comes with a desire to transform and that could mean one thing – improvement. Change does not always have to be enforced if we embrace it a little easier. The good news here is the only person that can change YOUR mind is YOU! Change is impossible if you don’t allow or accept it. Our minds are really more powerful than we realise in such that it has the ability to create perceptions for us. If our mind says change is creepy, change will appear creepy no doubt. If we allow ourselves to be crippled by our minds and give in to limited thinking, guess what – the result is obvious. By limiting our thinking we limit our experiences and hence our personal growth and development is destined to these limitations. We can all start changing the way you think by embracing change.

Change does not have to be the boogy man under the bed or the werewolf of that pathetic movie you once saw. Start believing that you are change and that you can be the change you want to see (hey Ghandi said that!). Now it is important to realise that change does not happen over night, nor does embracing change. So realise that change is a process and that it will take time. You can bet that it will take you places you've never dreamt of either. So, buckle up and enjoy the ride and the people you’re bound to meet on the journey too, as change becomes an inclusive matter. Change can be exciting and very empowering if embraced in a positive manner. Life in itself is complex enough we don’t need to make it harder than it is. My mom always told me; life is not as easy as pie, but it also does not have to be as hard as my head. I never understood what she meant by that – still not sure if I do.

So; I wish to encourage you today to accept change. Become that changed person!
Change your negatives and turn them into positives
Turn your fears into fearlessness.
Become the victor instead of the victim.
Conquer and face up to your suppressions.
Turn the imbalances into balances (just like I did with my former type “A personality”)
Become converted into a whole and discard the brokenness.
Let the ill thoughts become wholesome and constructive ones by realising these are ill thoughts.

And for a CHANGE – let me know what you think of my BLOG.

Friday, January 9, 2009

My Identity - Am I an African?

Why is it that I never learned another language other than the 2 I grew up with in my township? I think because my parents and I was oblivious of the importance of communication. May I even call the area I grew up in a township? According to many a township is where black people were forced to live in under the apartheid regime. Well; I was forced to live in my area at the time of apartheid, so in my mind it will be a township. I am of no “significant” ethnic group that speaks a distinctive language for example Xhosa, Zulu, Tswana, Tsonga, etc. I am what many natives of South Africa prefer to call “coloured”. Apparently the Americans infer the term coloured to be derogatory or distasteful. I’ve experienced this first hand many a night out in town making conversation with an American tourist who would (interestingly) ask me what my race is and wait for me to make the horrible mistake and say I’m “coloured”.

Former President Thabo Mbeki’s “I’m an African” speech so eloquently describes me for who I feel I truly am. A man born on the African continent, with a darker than white skin yet lighter than dark skin – that is what I am. I am a man, a colleague, a friend, a brother, a son – that is who I am. Does my ethnicity matter to you? Why? Does it make me more or less of a person that the others? Does it give me more or less rights than others? Should I be treated as less or more favourable that my brother with the darker or lighter skin?

Why don’t I speak Xhosa, Zulu, Tswana, Tsonga or any other ethnic language? Should I not have made the effort by now to speak an ethnic language? If I am an African, should I not speak an African language? Have I found myself living in the comfort zone created for me by my circumstances? Am I not a part of the people I call my people…Africans? Should I learn to speak French and Portuguese like some of my African brothers on other parts of continent? Does my identity lie in the language I speak? If so why? Does my identity lie in the tone of my skin? If so why?

I observe the injustices of the present day and I mourn for the lack of tolerance of a nation. A beautiful land with so much potential, yet risk consuming itself by the shallowness of what the eye behold and the mind perceive to be “more or less”. Well, you know what maybe the former president’s speech will clarify any future concerns of what my nationality really is.
Read it for yourself:
I am an African.
I owe my being to the hills and the valleys, the mountains and the glades, the rivers, the deserts, the trees, the flowers, the seas and the ever-changing seasons that define the face of our native land.
My body has frozen in our frosts and in our latter day snows. It has thawed in the warmth of our sunshine and melted in the heat of the midday sun. The crack and the rumble of the summer thunders, lashed by startling lightening, have been a cause both of trembling and of hope.
The fragrances of nature have been as pleasant to us as the sight of the wild blooms of the citizens of the veld.
The dramatic shapes of the Drakensberg, the soil-coloured waters of the Lekoa, iGqili noThukela, and the sands of the Kgalagadi, have all been panels of the set on the natural stage on which we act out the foolish deeds of the theatre of our day.
At times, and in fear, I have wondered whether I should concede equal citizenship of our country to the leopard and the lion, the elephant and the springbok, the hyena, the black mamba and the pestilential mosquito.
A human presence among all these, a feature on the face of our native land thus defined, I know that none dare challenge me when I say - I am an African!
I owe my being to the Khoi and the San whose desolate souls haunt the great expanses of the beautiful Cape - they who fell victim to the most merciless genocide our native land has ever seen, they who were the first to lose their lives in the struggle to defend our freedom and dependence and they who, as a people, perished in the result.
Today, as a country, we keep an audible silence about these ancestors of the generations that live, fearful to admit the horror of a former deed, seeking to obliterate from our memories a cruel occurrence which, in its remembering, should teach us not and never to be inhuman again.
I am formed of the migrants who left Europe to find a new home on our native land. Whatever their own actions, they remain still, part of me.
In my veins courses the blood of the Malay slaves who came from the East. Their proud dignity informs my bearing, their culture a part of my essence. The stripes they bore on their bodies from the lash of the slave master are a reminder embossed on my consciousness of what should not be done.
I am the grandchild of the warrior men and women that Hintsa and Sekhukhune led, the patriots that Cetshwayo and Mphephu took to battle, the soldiers Moshoeshoe and Ngungunyane taught never to dishonour the cause of freedom.
My mind and my knowledge of myself is formed by the victories that are the jewels in our African crown, the victories we earned from Isandhlwana to Khartoum, as Ethiopians and as the Ashanti of Ghana, as the Berbers of the desert.
I am the grandchild who lays fresh flowers on the Boer graves at St Helena and the Bahamas, who sees in the mind's eye and suffers the suffering of a simple peasant folk, death, concentration camps, destroyed homesteads, a dream in ruins.
I am the child of Nongqause. I am he who made it possible to trade in the world markets in diamonds, in gold, in the same food for which my stomach yearns.
I come of those who were transported from India and China, whose being resided in the fact, solely, that they were able to provide physical labour, who taught me that we could both be at home and be foreign, who taught me that human existence itself demanded that freedom was a necessary condition for that human existence.
Being part of all these people, and in the knowledge that none dare contest that assertion, I shall claim that - I am an African.
I have seen our country torn asunder as these, all of whom are my people, engaged one another in a titanic battle, the one redress a wrong that had been caused by one to another and the other, to defend the indefensible.
I have seen what happens when one person has superiority of force over another, when the stronger appropriate to themselves the prerogative even to annul the injunction that God created all men and women in His image.
I know what if signifies when race and colour are used to determine who is human and who, sub-human.
I have seen the destruction of all sense of self-esteem, the consequent striving to be what one is not, simply to acquire some of the benefits which those who had improved themselves as masters had ensured that they enjoy.
I have experience of the situation in which race and colour is used to enrich some and impoverish the rest.
I have seen the corruption of minds and souls in the pursuit of an ignoble effort to perpetrate a veritable crime against humanity.
I have seen concrete expression of the denial of the dignity of a human being emanating from the conscious, systemic and systematic oppressive and repressive activities of other human beings.
There the victims parade with no mask to hide the brutish reality - the beggars, the prostitutes, the street children, those who seek solace in substance abuse, those who have to steal to assuage hunger, those who have to lose their sanity because to be sane is to invite pain.
Perhaps the worst among these, who are my people, are those who have learnt to kill for a wage. To these the extent of death is directly proportional to their personal welfare.
And so, like pawns in the service of demented souls, they kill in furtherance of the political violence in KwaZulu-Natal. They murder the innocent in the taxi wars.
They kill slowly or quickly in order to make profits from the illegal trade in narcotics. They are available for hire when husband wants to murder wife and wife, husband.
Among us prowl the products of our immoral and amoral past - killers who have no sense of the worth of human life, rapists who have absolute disdain for the women of our country, animals who would seek to benefit from the vulnerability of the children, the disabled and the old, the rapacious who brook no obstacle in their quest for self-enrichment.
All this I know and know to be true because I am an African!
Because of that, I am also able to state this fundamental truth that I am born of a people who are heroes and heroines.
I am born of a people who would not tolerate oppression.
I am of a nation that would not allow that fear of death, torture, imprisonment, exile or persecution should result in the perpetuation of injustice.
The great masses who are our mother and father will not permit that the behaviour of the few results in the description of our country and people as barbaric.
Patient because history is on their side, these masses do not despair because today the weather is bad. Nor do they turn triumphalist when, tomorrow, the sun shines.
Whatever the circumstances they have lived through and because of that experience, they are determined to define for themselves who they are and who they should be.
We are assembled here today to mark their victory in acquiring and exercising their right to formulate their own definition of what it means to be African.
The constitution whose adoption we celebrate constitutes and unequivocal statement that we refuse to accept that our Africanness shall be defined by our race, colour, gender of historical origins.
It is a firm assertion made by ourselves that South Africa belongs to all who live in it, black and white.
It gives concrete expression to the sentiment we share as Africans, and will defend to the death, that the people shall govern.
It recognises the fact that the dignity of the individual is both an objective which society must pursue, and is a goal which cannot be separated from the material well-being of that individual.
It seeks to create the situation in which all our people shall be free from fear, including the fear of the oppression of one national group by another, the fear of the disempowerment of one social echelon by another, the fear of the use of state power to deny anybody their fundamental human rights and the fear of tyranny.
It aims to open the doors so that those who were disadvantaged can assume their place in society as equals with their fellow human beings without regard to colour, race, gender, age or geographic dispersal.
It provides the opportunity to enable each one and all to state their views, promote them, strive for their implementation in the process of governance without fear that a contrary view will be met with repression.
It creates a law-governed society which shall be inimical to arbitrary rule.
It enables the resolution of conflicts by peaceful means rather than resort to force.
It rejoices in the diversity of our people and creates the space for all of us voluntarily to define ourselves as one people.
As an African, this is an achievement of which I am proud, proud without reservation and proud without any feeling of conceit.
Our sense of elevation at this moment also derives from the fact that this magnificent product is the unique creation of African hands and African minds.
Bit it is also constitutes a tribute to our loss of vanity that we could, despite the temptation to treat ourselves as an exceptional fragment of humanity, draw on the accumulated experience and wisdom of all humankind, to define for ourselves what we want to be.
Together with the best in the world, we too are prone to pettiness, petulance, selfishness and short-sightedness.
But it seems to have happened that we looked at ourselves and said the time had come that we make a super-human effort to be other than human, to respond to the call to create for ourselves a glorious future, to remind ourselves of the Latin saying: Gloria est consequenda - Glory must be sought after!
Today it feels good to be an African.
It feels good that I can stand here as a South African and as a foot soldier of a titanic African army, the African National Congress, to say to all the parties represented here, to the millions who made an input into the processes we are concluding, to our outstanding compatriots who have presided over the birth of our founding document, to the negotiators who pitted their wits one against the other, to the unseen stars who shone unseen as the management and administration of the Constitutional Assembly, the advisers, experts and publicists, to the mass communication media, to our friends across the globe - congratulations and well done!
I am an African.
I am born of the peoples of the continent of Africa.
The pain of the violent conflict that the peoples of Liberia, Somalia, the Sudan, Burundi and Algeria is a pain I also bear.
The dismal shame of poverty, suffering and human degradation of my continent is a blight that we share.
The blight on our happiness that derives from this and from our drift to the periphery of the ordering of human affairs leaves us in a persistent shadow of despair.
This is a savage road to which nobody should be condemned.
This thing that we have done today, in this small corner of a great continent that has contributed so decisively to the evolution of humanity says that Africa reaffirms that she is continuing her rise from the ashes.
Whatever the setbacks of the moment, nothing can stop us now! Whatever the difficulties, Africa shall be at peace! However improbable it may sound to the sceptics, Africa will prosper!
Whoever we may be, whatever our immediate interest, however much we carry baggage from our past, however much we have been caught by the fashion of cynicism and loss of faith in the capacity of the people, let us err today and say - nothing can stop us now!
Thank you

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Stop Spending Money Recklessly

The writing is BOLDLY on the wall. We’re experiencing a global economic melt-down. Yes we heading towards economic depression Mr. Governor of the Reserve Bank and you better face it too my brother and sister in the street. The USA faced economic depression in the early 1930’s which lasted about 10 years. The depression was aggravated by poor monitory policy and the ignorance of consumers perpetuated the crunch.

Yes it was the festivities, known as a time for giving blah blah blah yada yada fish paste. In December one could wonder around and still be surprised to see the Khumalo’s and the Jones’ neighbours still competing in buying expensive disposable toys and gadgets on credit. All the stores around are allowing people new credit and people are opening up new accounts and exhausting the very credit they too 12 months to square up. Banks are advertising available loans to pay off all debts, so you will eventually be paying only one debtor – them. Business’ is closing their doors for much longer than the holiday season and our friends and family member are facing retrenchment. Interest rates are fluctuation and the Governor is stocking up on Rennies and Eno’s. Road rage is on the rise and so is domestic violence. Tourists are not arriving in the masses they used to, with the result Guest Houses and Hotels are reportedly not occupied the way they need to be. This is the start of what will become an international emergency if action is not taken by the powers that be. We need constructive international dialogue with goal oriented strategies that will deliver measurable results ASAP!

In the mean time we’ve spend our money on disposable gifts to impress the woman and men in our lives. What did I experience going to the Waterfront? - Gucci, Jimmy Choo’s, Louis Vuitton etc, all dead inside. How long will they last in the Mother City? Not a tourist in sight and the locals are obviously on the other side where the prices are slightly lower-case. Now is the time for the crunch, tightening of the belt and the inevitable yet almost compulsory diet. The superficial excuse: “I must lose weight” – the real reason – “I’m broke as a jail house dog”. When will we learn to save our money for the “winter months” just like those beasts that go into hibernation? My wish for all I know and love and all they know and love and their worlds beyond is fiscal discipline and more fiscal discipline. We have to leave our children some sort of legacy if not money.

Let’s be honest, we cannot live without the dreaded “M” word. Money is not the root to all evil people is. In moments like these the green eyed monster will make its appearance and that will be followed by greed, deceit, destruction and all things negative. And money will be given the blame, when clearly it is the ill behaviour of people instigated by their own ignorance and negligent management of income!

Let me sign out before I’m overcome with passion.
Peace, Love and Prosperity is yours to gain!